My passion is to walk alongside you and assist in identifying the barriers that hinder healthy relationships in day to day life, your career, or within yourself. I have spent many years living overseas and started several grassroot businesses. These businesses offered ”healthy relational counseling” to individuals, couples and groups from both secular and Christian perspectives. I believe relational counseling is a therapeutic process built on trust, hope and caring. Through this practice, healing and genuine change can begin between the counselor and client, which transfers to the real world. Over the last 30 years, my experience has included:
- Marriage counseling, divorce recovery and families in crisis.
- Addictions including prescription drugs, pain medication and pornography.
- Sexual, emotional and physical abuse including rape, post abortion, and domestic violence.
- PTSD as a result of sex trafficking, violent crimes, and plights of refugees.
- Health related issues including parkinson’s disease, self-harm, cancer survivors and eating disorders.
- Multicultural reconciliation skills.
More about Cathy
My early years were spent in Colombia, South America. As a child I was deeply affected by the contrast between the natural tropical beauty and all the poverty and depravity around me. I could not reconcile the violence and injustice I witnessed. As I grew up and began traveling around the world, I realized that so many of these people had indeed figured out ways to cope with war, violence, abuse, and injustice. I admired their resilience. How did they do it?
RESILIENCE! That was the key!! I talked with people, for example, in Bangladesh whose stilted homes were washed away every year from monsoons….and rebuilt. I’ve cried with people (both men & women/ children & adults) who have been trafficked out of the back of a semi-truck in Colorado, Texas and Florida for years, yet who are now amazing survivors, helping other survivors. I’ve laughed alongside of couples from all over the world who thought their marriage could never be restored after infidelity yet were whole again. I’ve sung songs with Middle Eastern and African Refugees who have suffered war bound torture and hatred beyond belief yet are now in safe countries with new jobs and restored hope for the future. In Sri Lanka, I held hands with people who suffered losing their entire family in the Tsunami… all people offering me nuggets of gold on how to restore hope through RESILIENCY.
With much research and face to face experience, I realized RESILIENCY was LEARNED! I always thought it was something you either had or didn’t have from childhood. I was stunned to learn that failure and strife actually cultivates RESILIENCY! But there are skills to learn to make it happen, skills such as self-awareness, ability to pay attention (mindfulness), learning to grieve and let go while embracing change, learning how to have healthy relationships, and accessing positive emotions while focusing on the beauty in life. Above all, we need to learn to nurture ourselves well.
I am grateful that through all these years of seeing the dark side of things, I am most enamored with people in crisis and how they have been restored. They didn’t do this alone. Asking for help is difficult and yet I am happy to announce that it IS possible to laugh again. I hope you will allow me to walk that journey to RESILIENCY with you.